Thursday, March 30, 2017

10 years!

Husband and I are celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary. It is hard to believe how truly fast time can fly when you aren't paying attention.

We just got back from our celebratory trip to Jamaica. It was the most fun. I can't say that enough. For the past two years we have talked about where we want to go and what we want to do. We went big. Landing in Jamaica, our private driver drove us to the resort where our personal butler opened the door with her white gloved hands.

I kid you not.

The Royal Plantation in Ocho Rios was spectacular and if you are on the fence about choosing where to drop a chunk of change, look no further. While we were there, we made some friends. Several newlyweds were on their honeymoon and they let these old folks pal around with them.  On the last night, one of the girls said, "Y'all have been married ten years and seem so happy. What's the one piece of advice you have for us?"

Almost simultaneously, we stated {loudly}, "DON'T ASK FOR ADVICE."

Everyone laughed and then we proceeded to quote bad Hallmark cards about what to do and what not to do. Allow me to regale you with some of our words of wisdom:

- Have fun.

- Remember that your spouse chose you. They are your cheerleader and you, in turn, are theirs.

- Surprise each other.

- Be a fun person.

- Your spouse is your family. Don't let other family members make decisions about your new family for you. Make those decisions together without involving outside influences.

- Smile.

- Kiss.

- Eat dinner together as a family every night. Especially if the family is just the two of you. Yes, even if it is just cereal and beer. Cut the TV off and put the phone away.

- Save money. Even when you think you can't-- you can.

- Be the hero. Sometimes that is letting your spouse be the hero.

- Make plans.

- It's okay to go to bed angry. Actually, it's encouraged. Half the time you forget why you were mad the night before. If not, cooler heads typically prevail.

- Surround yourself with couples who love each other and treat each other the way you want to be treated. Stave off bickering couples and those that talk negatively about their spouse. You'll be shocked how fast a bad attitude can spread.

- Acknowledge when you are in hard times. Everything could be going right outside your relationship, but something is strained within; acknowledging it- man, it takes a load off. You don't have to argue, you just have to say the words: "I don't know why we are in a tough spot right now, but we are." The response is almost always: "I know. But, we'll get through it." It will happen sooner than you think.

- Your thirties are going to be way more fun than you think.

- Have fun, for the love of GOD-- life is amazing and beautiful and wonderful. It should, at the very least, be fun.

It's been a good ten years and decided we would try this marriage business for another five and see how we are doing at fifteen.

1 comment:

BettieBoyd said...

Congratulations and much love!